Do you know there are more than 20 Common Defense Mechanisms Used for Anxiety? Ego Defense Mechanisms is one of them.
Have you ever felt that you have been disappointed in life from all sides, whatever you are trying to do, it is happening in reverse and you have started finding your own life monotonous?
We want others to give importance to us but it doesn’t happen. We find ourselves spread in life, which has become disappointed from all sides, do you feel or feel that nothing is going right with you now.
If yes then you have become a victim of ego defense mechanisms i.e. mental traps.
This is a situation in which we find ourselves surrounded by conditions like pain, toxic shame, and hopelessness. They fill our mind with a strong illusion from which it is not easy to come out.
Our thinking is completely filled with dark negative thoughts and then our subconscious mind accepts all these thoughts.
When this happens, the work being done also starts deteriorating and we are not able to do anything right even if we want to.
Due to such mental distortions, we are unable to keep ourselves focused from both the external and internal side.
Our life is confined around a lie and due to negative thoughts, we allow unrealistic and untruthful thoughts to flourish.
This is not our fault and we can get out of this kind of situation if we want.
In this article, we are going to talk about how to recognize this situation, correct the situation again and how to deprogram oneself and get out of it by deprogramming the ego.
Doing this will help you in inner peace, self-love, groundedness, trust, and spiritual connectedness with life.
What Are Ego Defense Mechanisms?
Ego defense mechanisms (or mental traps) are considered in simple words as special psychological strategies which saves us from unnecessary situations.
Suppose that you are not able to tolerate the painful truth or reality, then your ego defense mechanism helps you to get out of it or builds a wall that keeps you away from it.
It acts as a protector for us but, it also protects us from our fear and trauma. In other words, a protector who protects you from external threats in such a way that you are not able to take the risk.
This creates a feeling of fear and depression in us which prevents us from moving forward.
When this happens, we tend to drag on life with old, outdated, and dysfunctional inner programming.
This is exactly the same as we do not take the risk of business because of the fear of losing and keep working with others for some money.
You can identify Ego Defense Mechanisms people used for anxiety in the following way
- You are passing through low self-esteem and self-worth.
- fight with each other frequently
- put everyone to one side
- You are considering yourself an innocent victim.
- You feel that the whole world is turned against you.
- You see the world in only two ways. Both are because of your own Ego Defense Mechanisms and you don’t want to break this reality.
- Change in yourself very fast one day you are something else and the other day something else
- Feeling critical and sarcastic again and again.
- You feel that you can never do anything wrong.
- Feeling shy and ideal for others.
- Keeping a high expression of self and others in mind
- Most of the time you do not feel satisfied with yourself.
- Having an addictive personality.
- Having the problem of overthinking.
- Feeling fake.
- Feeling detached from one’s true self and life.
If you are able to match yourself with any of the points mentioned above, then understand that you are passing through the dark side of Ego Defense Mechanisms.
9 Basic Ego Defense Mechanisms
Talking about it, there are total 9 types of defense mechanisms that have been identified. this is the following
- Making Assumptions means always thinking in advance.
- Extreme Beliefs always accept negative thoughts in your mind and walk.
- Negative Comparisons Always walk by comparing yourself with others in the negative way.
- Obsessive desires to desire those things which you do not have.
- Strict Expectations Keep your expectations the same in any case
- Lofty Ideals to expect what cannot be.
- Reactive Extremes keep changing all the time.
- suppress your feeling
- Repression some mistakes of the past that we remove at a place which are of very destructive nature.
All these 9 types represent our unconscious process. These Ego Defense Mechanisms are part of such an action which continues in the form of subconscious mind.
4 roles that we affect our spiritual growth in the course of playing
Although there are many such roles of ego defense mechanism that stop our spiritual growth, but we are going to talk about the most common 4 role here. In this
Innocent Bystander: During any kind of journey of self-growth, we fool ourselves the most by convincing ourselves that we have not done anything wrong. This is a kind of lie that prevents us from recognizing ourselves. Even if we make a mistake, considering ourselves innocent, we do not accept it.
Innocent Critic: This is also a kind of defense mechanism in which we oppose others to prove ourselves right. Our sole purpose of criticizing others is to keep ourselves away from guilt. We constantly oppose others so that no one can prove our mistakes to and its all part of Ego Defense Mechanisms.
Blameless Victim: Instead of admitting it is your fault, you blame it on others. You are not responsible for your condition but someone else. Everyone does such an act so that he can keep himself away from any kind of guilty.
Almighty Controller: Whatever we do and in the end said that all this is God’s Leela. They wanted that so this happened or it was written by fate like to protect themselves through word through an ego defense mechanism.
Whatever we do or would have done, it would have been that which is acceptable to God, keeping this kind of thinking, stop ourselves from moving forward. These 4 types of ego defense mechanism prevent us from moving forward and also affect our spiritual growth.
How to Free Yourself from Harmful Ego Defense Mechanisms
It becomes easier for us to control the condition when we identify what has been said wrong.
All the mental patterns created by our mind are not bad, you have to understand it. Sometimes it is necessary to maintain your certain belief to motivate yourself.
Many times the situation becomes such that instead of facing them, it is better for us to get away from them directly, in such a situation it is the Ego Defense Mechanisms that protect us.
Difficulties occur when such mental patterns become mental traps for us and start affecting our mental, emotional, and spiritual wellbeing.
When this happens, we find ourselves struggling. In such a situation, we should follow some tips which can help us to get out of it.
1. Practice self-inquiry
Whenever any kind of negative thoughts start forming in your mind, you should start investigating it.
Treat yourself like an expert and start analyzing yourself. If negative thought is being formed in your mind then you should ask yourself questions like
- what am i feeling
- What is the main root of this thought?
- What is the proof against this kind of thought/feeling?
- what could be the alternative explanation
- Do I have any other option than this?
Always be open and curious about yourself so that you can know yourself as much as possible. If you want, you can also record self journal for this.
2. Approach life with loving-kindness
Whenever any energy is formed in our mind due to toxic assumptions, beliefs, comparisons, desires, it brings with it a fear. We don’t deserve it or we will lose it. Such thoughts fill us with the fear that we usually have to lose. We can face this fear with love.
On one hand, where fear separates us from others, love connects us with others. To deprogram ego defense mechanisms, we will need ourselves, others. It is easy but takes time so you have to proceed with patience.
Many times loving-kindness is not moved beyond that, in such a situation we accept it. In difficult situations, if we can maintain our inner softness, then no one can stop us from moving forward.
3. Be defiant and challenge yourself
If unwanted thoughts are coming in your mind again and again, then you can directly stop them with thoughts like “Is this right”.
Whenever any kind of unwanted thought starts forming in your mind, you can stop it through such thought.
If you can face your questions then what are you afraid of? You can easily face any such unwanted thoughts.
Do not become a slave to your mind, but learn to resist unwanted thoughts, face Ego Defense Mechanisms and try not to disturb you again and again.
4. Meditate to develop witness consciousness
Meditation for inner peace has been working not from today but like an ancient technique.
The most important thing is that you do not have to be both religious and spiritual for this. Meditation teaches you how to become a witness instead of being a part of your thoughts.
It helps you to understand them without getting lost in them.
We often get lost in thoughts that have nothing to do with us.
If you have never practiced meditation then it might confuse you a bit but, you can think of it like a sky.
Our thoughts are like clouds in it, which keep coming and going, but the sky is the same. Meditation is also like this.
If you are a victim of Ego Defense Mechanisms then meditation can help you. You do not need to create any kind of environment for this, but you can achieve it with just 5 minutes of practice.
- First of all choose a quiet place.
- If you want, you can apply background music which fixes your mood.
- Sit or lie down in whatever position you feel comfortable in.
- Keep your full focus on the breath.
- You just have to pay attention to the ups and downs of your breath.
- Your mind will run in thoughts again and again, but instead of getting upset, you have to focus your attention on your breath.
- Continue the practice for the next 5 minutes.
- When the exercise is over, give a little stretch to the body so that it becomes active.
Try to make it a part of daily habit, you start getting results in just a week.
5. Cut yourself some slack
Instead of running away from the situation, accepting them in the same way and trying to move ourselves forward makes us successful.
If you assume that you are a human being and it is natural to make mistakes. It is only by making a mistake that we learn to move forward so that we make ourselves successful.
It has been working for a long time like a healing technique that we get during meditation.
When you adopt a relaxed attitude within yourself that accepts mistakes and moves forward by learning from them, then surely you will be able to defeat Ego Defense Mechanisms.
We will not need any kind of defense mechanism if we learn from our mistakes and move forward.
How to defeat Ego Defense Mechanisms conclusion
Talking about psychology, we all develop an unconscious psychological mechanism that protects us from any unacceptable or potentially harmful stimuli (emotion, thought and feeling).
Usually it works to protect us, but sometimes it also brings with it an unknown fear which prevents us from moving forward. We stay behind from moving forward in our life only because our own Ego Defense Mechanisms keeps stopping us from taking risks at the right time.
Not accepting any kind of challenge because of the fear that you will spread, imprisoning yourself behind a boundaries is a sign of this.
It acts as protection for us when we are going through some guilt or trauma, but sometimes it also prevents us from moving forward, especially affects our spiritual growth, which becomes very important to heal.
Do not forget to tell us in the comments what kind of ego defense mechanism do you feel yourself stuck in and what kind of steps are you adopting to get out of it.